The Angry Princess
Pixar’s film, “The Incredibles” is one of my all-time favorite family movies. I will have to say I have watched it more times than I would like to admit. This movie tells a story of a family of superheroes who overcome fear, mend their marriage, and stand up against injustices. There is a scene in the movie where Mr. Incredible has to watch a person being mugged outside of his office window while his boss is yelling at him and threatening to fire him. Mr. Incredible becomes enraged because the mugger got away with the victim’s personal belongings. His boss was downright mean and unsympathetic toward the victim of the mugger. Mr. Incredible then takes his little egotistic mean boss and throws him through ten office walls with his superpower of strength. He took out his anger on his boss for the injustice that the victim and he himself had suffered. His boss wound up in a body cast in the hospital. Mr. Incredible could not control his emotions and lost his self-control which cost him his job and a lawsuit.
There have been a few times in my life where I would have liked to have taken a few people who are mean and created injustices and put them through some walls myself. I’m just keeping it real. I know that it’s not very Princess like to feel that way but we live in a world where the injustices that happen around us just plain out make us angry like Mr. Incredible.
Injustice or our common vernacular “that’s not fair” is something that as long as we are breathing we will deal with. We all have difficulties at our jobs and we all have seen and dealt with injustices from time to time. It is difficult to sit back and not be able to do anything about them. Perhaps, we have seen or dealt with a boss who is dishonest, a coworker who gets ahead before we do, or a company that has values or practices that go against our moral and biblical beliefs.
On a more personal level maybe we have dealt with adultery, rejection, or accusations. Perhaps we have seen or heard of a child being abused, or maybe we are aware of people who are being taken advantage of mentally, emotionally, or even financially. All of these things can make us angry when it not only affects our lives but the lives of all that are in our circle of relationships.
How do we as Princesses of God keep our composure in times like this? How do we maintain a kind and gentle spirit when there are so many things around us that make us angry? What can we do?
There are times when a situation must be confronted. There are also times when we are to remain silent. There are times when we are to file a report or go to authorities. There are also times to seek wise counsel in order to even know what to do. The anger we are feeling is a sure sign that we first experienced a sense of frustration, fear or even injustice. In other words, the anger we feel is in response to the initial incident we encountered. For instance, if we stub our toe we might let out a yell, or a silent gesture, then we are left with the throbbing pain. Anger is the throbbing pain after the initial stubbing of the toe.
Let’s take a look at Jonah. I love this guy because I can relate. First, he runs from God because he did not want to relay the message God wanted him to give. Second, he did not want to relay the message because he knew God would end up being merciful to the people of Nineveh. Jonah ends up being obedient reluctantly and relays the message. God was going to destroy the city! Jonah decided to sit back and watch to see what would happen all while having his own pity party and sulking in his anger. Jonah 4:1 says, “But it displeased Jonah exceedingly, and he was angry.”
The people of Nineveh end up responding to the message by an amazing act of repentance. God spares them miraculously. God did not give them what they deserved and Jonah did not like it. Are we any different? We want justice and we are angry with someone then perhaps they get their life right with Jesus and we should rejoice yet we are mad because they didn’t get what they deserved. Or, God asks us to forgive or love them and we refuse because of what they did to us. They are deserving of death in our eyes. Oh, my sisters in Jesus I get it. Jonah didn’t see the judgment he thought they deserved. We don’t get to see the justice we think people deserve either and honestly, justice and judgment belong to God Almighty anyway not us. In fact, the Lord said, “Do you do well to be angry?” (Jonah 4:4)
And, what about us? Aren’t you and I glad that God didn’t give us what we deserve either? I know people stink sometimes. Their moods, their lifestyles, their criticism can be so hurtful and annoying but God calls us to a higher standard. That standard is to put our wedding gown on and lace up our boots and go into his presence. We are to talk to Him about everything. He is the only one that can ease our heart, ease our mind, and take away the anger. I am not a brain specialist but I know enough to know that anger and logic cannot reside at the same time. When the anger comes on us, we must slow down, take a huge deep breath, and then we can realize we have been triggered and we are angry. That is right where we need to be. At that moment we go straight to Jesus and rant and blow the steam and let it out. Tell the Lord how much you want to throw Kool-Aid at them or see them rot. Then, let His grace lead you to pray. If we never get to the throne room we can never vent in order to allow God to deal with our pain, our fears, our anxiety etc. Anger is a great tool if we will allow it to be. This is so crucial; if we do not trigger our brain and our flesh to come to God then we will sulk like Jonah, gossip in anger over our leadership, or strike the rock like Moses. Our anger can fuel us to stupid if we let it.
No matter what the situation is, our first response when anger hits should be to embrace our King in the throne room. I know that is easier said than done but with a little practice, we can get there.
The great thing about being a Christian and a Princess is that we can choose what to do with our anger when we become aware of it. We can choose to allow it to run rampant in our lives causing us to make some bad decisions or we can channel that anger to make some right ones. As a princess, being angry is okay with God but what we do with it will determine if we remain in right standing with God.
Your Fellow Warrior and Princess, Jobi Jones
For further Study, I encourage you to read the short book of Jonah, Numbers 12 to see how if we don’t channel our anger against someone properly we can end up becoming gossipers and to see the anger of Moses look up Numbers 20:10-11. Also, for further meditation on God may I suggest a journal entry using this question: Is there anything going on in my life right now that is causing me to be angry with someone or with a situation and why?
Scripture References: The Holy Bible, English Standard Version® (ESV®)
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